Here it is as promised, but I am not sure where to start. I guess I will start by saying, I do not think I have ever met a girl completely satisfied with her appearance or if I have they had some other underlying insecurity. But point being, us girls are really hard on ourselves. It makes me sad sometimes, because how much life are we missing out on because we let our weight or hair or something else we don't like make us think differently about ourselves? Most of the time I try to remind myself of these simply words that my mom always told me, "There will always be someone else prettier, smarter, and thinner than you, but there will never be anyone else like you and there is always going to be someone that wishes she were as pretty, skinny and smart as you. Be happy with who you are." We were not all meant to be sticks or we'd come packed by Sanford with No. 2 stamped on our little booties. But no! We are not pencils, we are people. Some of us are naturally thin and some of us aren't. Some of us no matter how hard we try will never be a size 2 and if we do, we will look uglier and more unhealthy trying to be something we are not. This is something that annoys me about girls and makes me think to myself, am I really one of ya'all? Girls that lose and lose and lose, starve themselves to nothing and come out looking like a sick bobble head. Ya'all ain't cute. I just want to give you a cheeseburger. I am mentally feeling sorry for you. I can usually always tell the difference between someone who is naturally thin and does eat cheeseburgers and just stays skinny and someone who isn't. The difference is their appearance in looking natural and healthy. And really this is what it all boils down to is being healthy. Yes, you have to be happy with yourself, trust me, it is not healthy to look in the mirror and hate yourself, but it also isn't healthy to not eat or put pills into your body with unknown chemicals or to obsess about everything little thing on your body. There are kids somewhere worrying where they're getting their next meal, do you really want to be the "B" worried about your cellulite? When you die, you will reach that goal weight honey. You'll be bones. When I start to obsess about my appearance, this is what I remind myself (I suggest you do the same),"When I die no one will say, 'Oh Lee Ann (or insert your own name here) was always so thin and perfect' and that is o.k. because I want them to have more to say than that. I want them to say I was kind, sweet, loving, understanding, and that their lives were better because of me." When you are worried about your weight or something else, take that energy and put it into doing something with substance. Go volunteer, walk or run for a cause, make something, do a small act of kindness, go change a life.And I am not saying you shouldn't care about yourself, but do it in a healthy way. Love yourself and exercise to be fit, eat to be healthy, and remind yourself everyday that your body is the only one you get and it deserves to be loved by you. Anyone can have confidence, you start by loving yourself and when you naturally love yourself, it gives you more time to love others. I am not perfect and these are not easy words to live by. I falter and find myself obsessing over my big butt, then I think, "Well, at least the rocking world's still going to go 'round today." <-- **Queen song reference** And if all else fails, I just shrug it off and think,"It could always be worse." ;)
You....yeah you...the girl reading this...are beautiful. Don't beat yourself up. Don't annoy me by calling yourself fat or ugly or saying something else negative, because then that makes me feel the need to compliment you and then I feel all awkward and angry that we're discussing your butt. So go out into the world knowing that I, Lee Ann, with the power vested in me by no one, but me, declare you beautiful and your butt perfectly portioned for your pants.
You can stop obsessing about all of that and instead use those minutes of your day to do something more fun for yourself and others!
